Numerology, to better know your child and raise him serenely

Numerology is a very old tool that uses the birth name, all the first names of the child and the Date of Birth as a working basis. These elements make it possible to define our identity at the level of society and constitute the basis of the numerological profile. Thanks to simple calculations, numerology offers an approach to better know yourself, and within the framework of this subject, better know your child. “Numerology has nothing to do with clairvoyance. We don’t plan things. Numerology is analysis and observation in the service of understanding one’s identity“, explains Lydie Castells, numerologist and author of I discover the potential of my child through numerology.

The fundamental triangle of numerology to know your child

“Numerology, of which I give some keys in the book, is a valuable aid to avoid errors of judgment, linked to projections and to avoid locking it into an erroneous scheme. For this reason, it is useful to take cognizance of its particularities and its needs”, explains the numerologist. For this, numerology relies on two concepts, including that of the fundamental triangle. It includes two roots, each corresponding to a number, and a trunk, also associated with a number. You can calculate your tree or that of your child for free here by clicking here. The first root determines the first basic need and the innate gifts. The second root defines the second basic need. Finally, the figure of the trunk corresponds to the motivations, which gives meaning to life.

Your child has a 1 in his triangle

His vital need is to be independent. Its potential includes abilities to leadership and gives it a natural authority. He is willful and tenacious and knows what he wants. He is a child who can easily hold his own. As parents, trust him and let him experiment on his own. But if we do not give the keys to child 1 to be who he is, he may see his initiative inhibited. From an early age, invite him to make certain choices for his life (his extra-curricular activity, his clothes, etc.) because he must become aware of his ability to decide in order to be fulfilled. If, on the other hand, he expresses his authority too much and becomes a child tyrant with you, his loved ones, he is looking for limits. Just because he’s a born leader doesn’t mean he has to decide everything.

Your child has a 2 in his triangle

His need is to feel useful through the other. He is extremely sensitive. He is quite ambivalent, because he has a leader side, but needs to be in the shadows, a need to be reassured while being rather confident. These behaviors can destabilize the child and those around him. This is why he seeks lasting and authentic friendships. With him, it is necessary to privilege the opportunities to work or evolve in a group. Sometimes 2 children can be indecisive and doubt a lot. They can also be too close with a friend. The 2’s main fear is abandonment, so as parents, help them turn that fear into the ability to ask for support.

Your child has a 3 in his triangle

His need is to communicate and play. He has great expressive skills, whether physical, verbal or manual. In a world where he feels confident, his extroverted side is easily expressed. His desire for fun will often provide him with humor. Children 3 also tend to take events with joy and lightness. Endowed with a certain charisma, they need to share and create synergies between people. But when they are not allowed to express themselves, they can become sad children. They can also quickly lack concentration, and become scattered. As parents, you must bear in mind that play is a vital need for him. Allow him to have fun before embarking on homework, for example. He needs a playful part to move forward.

Your child has a 4 in his triangle

His need is to build and feel safe. He is a hard worker when stimulated. He needs to follow methods, to be organized to reassure himself. He is generally respectful of the rules and neat. He can adapt easily if he is well prepared in advance. But when he does not fully express his needs, child 4 can limit himself and thus become fearful. He may even develop certain tics and manias. He may also forget to play and lock himself into work. As parents, you have to overcome his lack of security by reassuring him, and this requires communication, anticipation and organization. In order, your child will develop the best of himself.

Your child has a 5 in his triangle

His need is movement and freedom. He is a child who needs to multiply the activities. He is very lively and his curiosity drives him to novelty and discoveries. He is a spontaneous and independent personality. He finds it difficult to concentrate on the same task because he gets bored quickly. But his audacity when it is not expressed can on the contrary make him fear the unknown. When he is in this immobility, it is because he is afraid of being himself. He can also use and abuse this aspiration for freedom and can become impatient, even thoughtless and inconsequential.

Your child has a 6 in his triangle

His need is to live in harmony. He is a child who needs to feel loved and hates tension. There is no point in coming into conflict with him, you will get nothing out of it. Very sensitive to aesthetics, he likes to bring care to what he does. Very empathetic, he knows how to recognize the needs of others… to the detriment of his own sometimes. He is not afraid of responsibilities. But be careful, he can quickly abandon himself for fear of conflict. In search of signs of interest, he can on the contrary sometimes seek to generate tension to draw attention to himself. He has fear of rejection, so as parents, trust him by giving him responsibility. Above all, avoid leaving him in a conflicting environment, because that makes him very unhappy.

Your child has a 7 in his triangle

His need is to understand everything. He needs to put meaning into his actions. His great cerebrity invites him to perpetual questioning. He needs moments alone to let his thoughts run free and to digest all the information he receives. He often has older friends, he likes to learn but often feels different from others. However, he assumes his originality and his thinking in arborescence. But he can also feel misunderstood, rejected and feel like the ugly duckling. In some cases, he may also come to lack self-confidence, for fear of failing. He must think about the result before thinking about the steps. That goal is what drives him. As parents, let him express his originality and try to fulfill his need for intellectual nourishment. It is not uncommon for this child to experience sleep disorders: any relaxation activity is recommended!

Your child has an 8 in his triangle

His need is to spend his overflowing energy. He also has a great sense of justice. This child should realize himself in two very different types of expression: either in competition, or in the energy placed at the service of others. He can come to the aid of those he thinks are in an unfair situation. More generally, he is a child who has a strong ambition and who likes to win. Sometimes, however, he can let himself be intimidated, even bullied. In case of injustice, it is therefore necessary for you parents to teach him to express his feelings, when he is upset, and thus avoid that he represses what he feels. Give him tools to say no and get some repartee. At the same time, this energy can make him angry and hard from time to time, like a volcano ready to explode.

Your child has a 9 in his triangle

His need is to express his hypersensitivity. He has a great openness to the world and to others. He has a strong desire for recognition and sometimes even notoriety. His analysis and sensitivity allow him to fully understand human psychology, even when he was little. Defending an idea, a cause, or expressing a passion very strongly are a source of motivation for him. But his gifts have limits. We can sometimes reproach him for being in the moon, lost in his thoughts. It can also happen that he is overwhelmed by his emotions and that he locks himself up. As parents, you can offer him very young activities that allow him to express his emotions such as music, theater, painting or writing. Rather than shatter his illusions, encourage him if he wants to get involved in a collective or associative dimension.

The dynamics of life according to numerology

The other important point to rely on numerology is the dynamics of life. This allows you to check if you are in agreement with yourself and what levers to activate to get out of certain habits or inappropriate behaviors. This allows you to awaken or encourage your innate potential, seen previously in the fundamental triangle. This dynamic of life is essential to reveal certain gifts or motivations still buried. The dynamics of life is the right way to act with him so that your child reveals himself fully.

A life dynamic 1 will thus encourage autonomy as a lever.
A dynamic of life 2 will encourage to be accompanied, to ask for help to succeed.
A Life Skill 3 will encourage play, joy and expression as solutions.
A life dynamic 4 will encourage the work and the method to move forward.
A Life Dynamic 5 will encourage variety and freedom to help her.
A life dynamic 6 will encourage harmony and taking responsibility to develop one’s potential.
A dynamic of life 7 will encourage reflection and the search for meaning to nourish one’s gifts.
A Life Dynamic 8 will encourage the expelling of energy through competitive activities, without this requirement becoming a source of harshness.
A dynamic of life 9 will encourage openness to the world and the expression of one’s sensitivity in order to be oneself.

In her book, Lydie Castells combines parenthood with numerology. Indeed, by discovering the talents and resources to be worked on in your child, she believes that a more personalized, better adapted and therefore more serene education is possible: “If you have an autonomous child, you will steer him to tell him without stop what he has to do. You can manage to guide him in other ways,” she explains. It thus brings keys and ideas according to the numerological profile of your child, according to his needs and his motivations. Example: Julie has 7, 1 and 6 in her triangle. Her life dynamic is 5. She therefore has an avid need for questioning, searching for meaning (7) and autonomy. She likes to decide (1). Her parents no longer know how to meet her needs, because she tends to scatter and multiply projects without really finishing them. Her life dynamics 5 clearly shows that the solutions for her to feel fulfilled are to offer her varied activities and more freedom, in order to finally be able to concentrate.

To understand more in depth the workings of numerology and how it can help you find the right methods with your child, Lydie Castells’ book gives food for thought to all possible combinations. Because each child is unique, and their potential will not be expressed in the same way in all children.

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Numerology, to better know your child and raise him serenely

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